To My Husband

by on November 7, 2011

November 7th, 2009 - St. Lucia

I met you when I was just 13, a shiny new freshman who’d happened to have the foresight to take French I in 8th grade. Which meant that I was in French II in 9th grade and, to my delight, in a mixed grades class. The first time I saw you, I instantly thought you were cute. I would purposely try to sit behind you or in your vicinity when I could. I have no idea how I even got you to talk to me. You were a hot junior and I was just little ‘ole me.


Circa 1993 - I found this old photo that Cliff took of me when he was at my house. No clue what I am pointing at.

Fast forward 18 years. So very happily married with a wonderful life together. And then completely out of nowhere: breast cancer. You never skipped a beat. You have been so strong for me. You have kept me sane. You have let me cry, piss, and moan daily about this “thing” that has wreaked havoc on my body and mind. You’ve just been here for me; comforting me and loving me and listening to me. I have no idea how you knew what was best for me, that these were exactly all of the things I have needed. Even though I have cried and complained every day, you have made me laugh, smile, and feel loved every day.

You are so caring, loving, warm, handsome, smart, funny, and talented. You don’t give yourself enough credit for all of your gifts. I have the honor of knowing the real you and that’s a privilege that only a few people have. I will always cherish that. I am so proud of you and the person that you are.

I love you.

These words don’t even come close to doing my feelings justice. Thank you so much for all that you have added to my life. Even with the curve ball I was thrown this year, I am still the luckiest girl in the world. Happy 2nd Anniversary, Cliff. Here’s to 60 more.

{ 10 comments… read them below or add one }

Lesa November 7, 2011 at 12:43 pm

Happy Anniversary!! Your story is an inspiration to all couples going through every day struggles and couples going through the hardest struggles. Remember Kasi what you said about no coincidences in life, it all happens for a reason~~we know this to be true. And as thankful as you are for Cliff, know that Dad and I are as thankful that you two found each other again, Cliff is a perfect fit for you and a perfect fit for our family, we love him!!
Enjoy this day and every day with your husband, your best friend, your lover and your partner in life. You will make so many wonderful memories!! We love you Mr. and Mrs. Gajtkowski!!
p.s. love the picture!! why am I not surprised that he kept that picture all these years?? <3


Kasi November 7, 2011 at 3:02 pm

Thank you, Mom! We love you guys, too!!!! Don’t know what we’d do without ya <3 <3 See you soooooooooooooon!!!! Yay!


Jenika November 7, 2011 at 1:27 pm

Happy Anniversary! Cliff is awesome and I am so glad that he has been your rock through all this! He is amazing and you guys are great together. Your relationship has been an awesome example of what I wanted in my life – it gave me the courage to fall in love with a great man!


Kasi November 7, 2011 at 3:03 pm

Thank you so much, Jenika!! And I am so happy that you have found someone equally as awesome – you deserve all of it, every single bit! Love ya! <3


Miya Goodrich-Phillips November 7, 2011 at 7:23 pm

OMG. I could cry! So beautiful, Kasi! I hope you two enjoy the day, :) XOXO


Kasi November 7, 2011 at 7:42 pm

Miya, thank you so much! I take that as a HUGE compliment coming from you :-) Happy Monday! <3


Sarah Krizo November 9, 2011 at 12:02 pm

Wow Kasi, what an incredible challenge. Your blog is amazing – so well written, I can imagine seeing it in a magazine somewhere. Thank you for sharing your story so openly. I’ve had some conflicts of my own going on lately but you have put it into perspective for me and reminded me to be grateful for my health, my hair, and the supportive people in my own life, and also to make every day count because who knows what will happen tomorrow. I really admire your “survivor” attitude & perspective!


Kasi November 9, 2011 at 2:09 pm

Hi Sarah! Thanks for reading! It’s amazing what a little perspective can do. Even though I am going through this, there are people going through much worse in their lives. Plus, I know that I am going to be just fine, so that makes it easier, too :-) I hope your conflicts all work out soon and I hope you guys are doing well! :-) Thanks again for “stopping by.”


Candi November 15, 2011 at 2:10 am

I love this post Kasi – very beautiful. People think that marriage is about the fun but I think it’s about being there no matter what. True love is when you can go through your darkest night and your partner is there to support you and vice-versa. I’m so glad that you two had each other through this. Happy Belated Anniversary


Kasi November 15, 2011 at 9:27 pm

Thank you, Candi!I really lucked out with Cliff, I am so grateful and thankful for him!!! <3


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